My happy relationship – Monthly Happiness Report – December, 2013

My happy relationship – Monthly Happiness Report – December, 2013

Welcome to my first monthly happiness report! December 2013 marks the month where I first bought a journal, and started to fill it with my personal thoughts. I have never stopped doing this, so by now I have quite a bit of data regarding my personal happiness. I want to show you all this data.

Let’s just have a look at this month’s average happiness rating below.

My average happiness rating in December, 2013 was a nice 7,59! Looking back, I remember that I was 20 years old at this time and was still in my final year of college. This meant that I had a pretty easy life, with not a lot of responsibilities. This allowed me to have a lot of fun, and therefore I was spending my time doing the things that I’m most passionate about.

Monthly happiness

I have looked at all my happiness ratings and created an easy-to-read graph below:

This graph simply shows the value of my happiness over time. As you can see, I was pretty happy overall. Four days were even rated with an 8,5, which means that they were definitely one of the better days of my life. I detailed one of those days in another post. One day received a happiness rating of a 5, which is obviously far below my monthly average. This particular day started with a hangover, some irritations within the relationship and ended with a night at a club. If you know me even a little, you should know that those are all things that make me very unhappy. Luckily, it was only a single day in this month. Edit: I have created a ‘Bay day’ post just about this day!

Happiness factors

As you know, I provide each happiness rating with extra data, mainly the factors that are influencing my happiness. Some of these factors are positively influencing my happiness, while some of them have a negative impact.

I have created a table to show the happiness rating of every single day during December, 2013, and which factors had an influence.

I have summarised the positive happiness factors below:

This simple graph shows all the positive factors that I have determined during December, 2013, along with the number of days in which they influenced my happiness.

“I love my girlfriend, and I love spending time with her”

I’m going to start this of by saying that my relationship provided me with a great amount of happiness. I love my girlfriend, and I love spending time with her. It is a happy relationship. Therefore, spending time with her usually makes me happy. This happened on nine days during this month. We don´t even have to do something special to make it work, we just hang around, watch a movie, relax a bit and laugh. I love it.

I also spent a lot of time playing, writing and recording music. Music is one of my biggest passions. I love to trap myself in a room with nothing but my instruments, and just get lost in the music for a couple of hours. Mind you, I don´t consider myself anything close to a brilliant musician, but I am good enough to not suck all the time. There may even a be tiny chance that I will post some personal music to this site in the future. You know, this is a site about personal happiness, so why not make it more personal? Let’s see how it goes. Bottom line is: I love playing music and it always makes me a happier person.

Finally, I want to point out how this was also a great social month. As much as I’m an introvert, being around my close friends absolutely makes me happy. It happened six times during this month. I will tell you now: that’s above average for me! The fact that I was still in college might have helped this statistic, since I had less responsibilities and more time to do the things that I want. Those times now seem waaaay back in the past. Ah well, life goes on.

Unfortunately for 20 year old me, there were also somethings having a negative influence on my happiness.

The thing with a happy relationship is, they are all roller-coaster rides. Every relationship experiences ups and downs, and that’s what makes it healthy. It took me a very long time to realise just that. Having bad days in a relationship is all part of the big picture. This month, it happened on six days. As much as I believe that every relationship needs some darkness in order to fully appreciate the light (bless you, Bob Ross), the temporary arguments still had a negative influence on my happiness. So whenever me and my girlfriend had an argument about whatever, we usually both ended up unhappier for a moment. At least I know I was. However, I want to stress that it is very clear to me that my relationship provided me with a lot of happiness overall. And it still does. That same happy relationship! I will gladly accept some shitty moments to be able to be around for the best.

“Every relationship experiences ups and downs, and that’s what makes it healthy”

I apologise if this makes you throw up in your mouth. Just trying to be honest about my happiness here!

I also want to point out that I started two of the days with a hangover. It’s not hard to guess what kind of influence this is having on my happiness. It sucks. Consuming alcohol is a great way to find short-term happiness (in moderation!), but unfortunately it doesn’t come without its downsides. You know what they say, if you drink like a man at night, you must not w(h)ine – my first very bad pun, intended – the morning after. You must face the music, whether you like it or not.

If you look at my positive happiness factors, you might notice that alcohol made me happy on more days than it made me unhappy: 6 versus 2. I count this as a victory! I achieve this by consuming at least as much water as I consume beer. Yup… I’m that guy. The one who chugs two full glasses of water when no one is looking! It worked its magic quite well for me this month.

And with that, I want to finish this Monthly Happiness Report. I sincerely hope this kind of posts are somewhat interesting. They are for me at least. If you have any questions about anything, please let me know in the comments below, and I’ll be happy to answer them!

Cheers.

ps: I want to conclude these posts by posting a picture of something I did during the month, but unfortunately I made zero pictures in December 2013. Better luck next month!

 

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